Growing up we’ve all wanted one thing of Cinderella’s. Oh, please, not the prince, THE SHOES! Because can you really be a princess without a pair of high heels like those? And what good are those high heels if you like them standing still like a prize on your shoe rack instead of rocking them everywhere you go?

Christian Louboutin once said, “the stiletto is a feminine weapon that men just don’t have.” But that statement can’t work for you if you don’t know how to walk in a pair of sparkly stilettos! Walking in heels is an art, one that every woman should master.

If you suck at it, you’re stuck with flip-flops and sneakers for eternity. Surprisingly more women than you can fathom lack this very basic skill. No one cares if you can’t cook; but if you can’t walk in heels, you’re busted for life!

Wondering how to learn to walk in heels? Here are some tips to light your path so that you may always step out in style.

The right shoe size

Starting with the basics. You’ve probably heard this a lot: there’s a high heeled sandal out there just waiting for you. As cliché as it might sound it does stand as a truth. The sandal that is waiting for you can walk you to other high heels.

But you must first find it. Here’s how you can figure that the next high heel you try putting on would be more pleasure, less pain: first off, make sure you’re buying the right size. There are so many women out there who do not have a care in the world when it comes to the perfect shoe sizing. Despite being well aware of the moral of Cinderella’s story, they keep making the same mistake.

They go for a pair that is either so tight that their feet feel cramped or so loose that their toes can literally dance in the shoes and lead them to the ultimate fall of their life. So ladies, be nice to yourself and make sure your shoes are the perfect fit.

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Comfort matters

Many women think that immediately jumping from slip-in sneakers to heels as high as most men’s ego is an okay choice. But noo, if you don’t know how to walk in high heels why challenge yourself? Life is already tough, don’t make it tougher. You weren’t taught biology in grade one directly, it all started with science.

So, go easy on yourself. Try kitty heels first, or only a wee bit high wedges, then keep upping your heel game. Slowly. Another tip within this one: go for robust soles. Thin soles are not that comfortable. Avoid delicate shoes and materials. Platform wedges are easy to walk in for this very reason.

Walk that walk

Okay, enough about how to select your shoes. Let’s move toward how to learn to walk in heels. Walking in the heels carries more uh-oh-stumble risks when you put your whole foot down and while on the move, exert pressure on your toes. That’s not how it’s done. Put your heels down first, next come your toes.

Secondly lean slightly back. Mostly, what happens is that in the awkwardness of it all, you end up forcing your neck or your upper body out. So relax and lean back, you don’t want to look more like a duck than a lady.

Next, arch your feet a bit so that your pressure is on the inside of the shoes. This will also make your foot feel cozier as the shoe would fit perfectly then. Remember, practice makes perfect.

how to learn to walk in heels

Relax a bit

Never feel ashamed to sit down when you get a chance to. Take breaks because if you tire yourself you might find yourself stranded in the middle of nowhere. Try to make it look casual. Pretty sure even a Victoria’s Secret model can trip if she walks for too long and exhausts her heel-clad feet.

Also, don’t forget to take small steps. This doesn’t mean that you are supposed to walk like Velma (from Scooby-Doo) in heels. Just smaller steps than you usually take. Rushing in heels is a no-way-hosay scenario. Never run in a pair even when you’re feeling particularly gutsy.

Also, try to be calm. It’s just heels after all. No big deal at all. Don’t keep focusing on your how high your heel is. Don’t look at how it clicks on the ground. Make sure your posture is comfortable. Stand straight and try to concentrate on that. Imagine yourself walking comfortably and you’ll be able to do it. Think about something else (like food) and you’ll be good.

Footwear designer Victor Chu says, “Engage your abs; this gives you poise and control. Walk heel to toe, which transfers impact to the leg instead of the ball of the foot. And relax your hips and knees so you’ll be fluid and graceful.”

Prepare your shoes

If this is a battle and your sandals are your weapons, brace them for what is to come. Scratch the soles of your heels with sandpaper. Don’t have sandpaper? Wear the pair and take a walk on the street. You need to do this because slick soles feel slippery, without any hold, on marble or hardwood floors.

If you feel like your feet have a knack for sliding in your sandals ready the sandals and steady your feet in them with footpads. There are lots of different products out there that can be of help in this regard. This way, your feet will be firm your shoes and you can save them from getting hurt as well.

Lastly, don’t walk the walk of shame when you can walk the walk of fame.