You don’t have to either be green or be red when you can be rainbow! That’s how ambiversion works. While introverts prefer to spend more alone time and don’t enjoy being in the spotlight and extroverts are the exact opposite, ambiverts lie in the middle of the spectrum.
Here’s how you can catch the drift better: let’s take Tina as an example. Tina loves being around people, she makes sure she’s being noticed, she’s the life of the party and everyone knows her. She’s someone everyone at school has always wanted to be.
Then there is Mina. Mina prefers to spend the night at home instead of dancing wild in a party. She has that one best-friend whom she can rely on because other than that she’s not all that open. People think she is rude when in truth, the girl’s just quiet.
Now there’s a Lina too. Lina goes to the party, enjoys it, meets her many friends but she is not the focal point here like Tina. Lina has friends who are party-goers like her, but she’s also cool with sitting quietly at a library. You’d have guessed by now that Lina is the ambivert.
Most ambiverts often don’t know that they are ambiverts despite the main giveaway being in plain sight; they fit neither in the introvert category nor in the extrovert category. Still confused? Let’s dive in and look at some of the signs you are an ambivert.
1. Ambiverts are outgoing but need alone time too
If you find it lovely to meet new people, make new friends, try new things with confidence and at the same time need to spend some time with yourself then you, my friend, are an ambivert. Ambiverts like extroverts are social butterflies, but like introverts, their energy gets drained after too much of socializing, and they prefer to take some time out for themselves too.
They like attention but not too much of it. They don’t mind boredom but need outside air and people for freshening up too. They share traits with both the extremes and stand right in middle. This is why they are also indecisive. They can’t pick whether they’d want to be at a beach or at the bustling cafeteria to hang out with their friends.
2. They are great communicators and leaders
Ambiverts are listeners, like introverts. They give people time to speak and know when to say what. They are also great speakers for this very reason; they can connect with people of both the kinds. They let people talk. As an ambivert, you might prefer deep conversations a lot. Small talk is okay but it can get boring for you.
An introvert would prefer to sit on a window pane and read a book then take a nap. An extrovert would find himself suffocated by being bored and alone for too long. An ambivert though would love to chat about deep stuff like an introvert and then go out and have some fun too like an extrovert. Since an ambivert shares traits with both an introvert and an extrovert, he is empathic and great at communication.
3. They can work in a team or go solo
An introvert might prefer solo work as the constant chatter of teammates can make him feel overwhelmed, while an extrovert would enjoy teamwork and would love to lead all the group members. But the qualities of leadership would more often than not lie in an ambivert because of his ability to enjoy solo work and teamwork equally. Also, because he would be great at communication.
4. You’re comfortable and stable in almost all environments
Since you can easily blend in or blend out, you don’t face any problems in most environments. For instance, you don’t mind the pin drop silence of the library, and you’re completely okay with the noise in a concert. That makes it easy for you to satisfy both your introvert and extrovert friends. However, a lot depends on your mood.
Despite the stability, you can be moody. When out for hours on end, you may not be able to stand another get-together. Similarly, after spending a quite lonely day, you may not be up for another calm activity and would prefer to hang out at a crowded place too.
5. Different people know different versions of you
As an ambivert you can adjust in both companies; that of extroverts and that of introverts. So when with what type of people, you adapt to the situation. You’re frisky and can fit in easily because your behavior depends on the opposite person’s. So while one person may know the serious you, another might argue and say that you’re not serious at all and are totally fun to be around.
Your friends have a hard time classifying you in either of the two categories. To some, you might be an introvert, while to others you might be an extrovert. When in truth, you’re an ambivert.
6. You know when to trust
Another trait of ambiverts is that they are neither overly trusting like an extrovert would be nor are they too skeptical like introverts. That said, ambiverts have a sense of when and whom to trust. Their ability to communicate easily and their versatile personality helps them figure out people. They don’t trust easily, nor are they untrusting, they know when they should trust. However, that doesn’t mean that they are too clever to be duped.